We have choices.

With the new wave of terror that now invades our living rooms, splayed on screens around the world. We have the choice to let these people monopolise our thoughts and therefore our actions or we can hold firmly to serenity

Serenity “Clear and calm , unruffled unperturbed. ” defined by  the Concise Oxford Dictionary.

No it is not easy – but not to remain so means we let these people who would otherwise have no influence in or on our life, direct and guide our lives defining them by terror.

“Our deepest fear  is not that we’re inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we’re powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.

“Ask ourselves: Who am I to be , to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a  child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you.

We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.

It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And, as we let our light shine, we unconsciously give people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

Taken from Marianne Williamson’s book “A Return to Love. Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles. ” MarianneWilliamson.com  Screen Shot 2015-11-18 at 10.20.55 am


Note About Nelson Mandela
This quote is often found on the Internet incorrectly credited to Nelson Mandela from his Inauguration Speech, 1994, especially the last sentence of that quote, “As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

No it isn’t easy to go against the mainstream who talk endlessly of their fears , watch it over  and over, the horror of it all on T.V , isn’t that what these people have wanted to achieve. Terror.


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Seven Wonders of the World

We are in a bit of flurry, Mum at age 92 is getting ready for an eye operation.

This means moving family members on the chess board from different states/provences so  there will be someone there to drive her for the operation, collect the medications the pre op and post op well I think you get the picture. Many phone calls to get it co-ordinated.

I know mum is very nervous as she knows it will involve some risks.

So when I saw this from a friend I thought to share it.

(I will take this to show mum when she has recovered with clearer vision.)

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  2. To Hear

seagull-271103_1280 3.To Touch

gorilla- photo from Pixabay

4.To Taste 

5.To feel 

6.To laugh

7. and to Love

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To see the rest of the beautiful images go to wordpress blog iczarnick Life-it is- humour,thoughtprovoking amazing.

Or may I suggest you add your own beautiful images before you share it

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Fear and how to overcome it.

Returning from our holiday in South America, among the mail was a touching letter from a former Yoga student. She wrote of her up coming gender change. Her letter explains

“In the New  Year I will start my medical transition using hormone therapy. I will start taking testosterone to replace my oestrogen which will make my body undertake a male puberty. This will lower my voice and allow me to grow facial hair but what ‘s more it will allow me to live honestly to my gender and myself.”

After all what does Yoga mean? The word and the practice. Union of body Mind and spirit. And until this occurs ( and it is an ongoing journey,rarely are we ever completely in balance.) how can we say we are a whole being. As I read and reread the letter my heart went out to her, this journey will take much courage. Her letter continues where by she explains how her decision had caused her much anxiety, finishing with how she hoped this hadn’t changed my view of her and could we continue with future letters.?

I have thought much on this and how to be  helpful. The letter speaks of hoping for acceptance,   of receiving counselling from a gender specialist. Thinking on her fears that brought me to my fears and then Universal fears and finally ways to overcome them.

I believe the way to overcome fear is to go to its roots, once you have faced it, talked to it, and brought it into the light. You can pull it up, planting new love where fear once grew. Dennis Waitly in his book  “Seeds of Greatness”  www.waitley.com

explains Fear as False Education Appearing Real.

“He goes on to say in my experience, there’re three dominant fears, beyond the fear of death, which is the greatest fear among non-spiritual individuals;

Fear of rejection, which is being made a fool or failure in the sight of presence of others.

Fear of change, which is charting unknown waters, being first, breaking tradition, sacrificing external security.

Fear of success, which is an expression of guilt associated with our natural desire for self gratification.”

Denis Waitley explains ”the fear of rejection begins early in child as we encountered the first “No” In our natural exercise of curiosity to explore and gratify our own needs.”

If raised in a nurturing family environment, children also experience two other most important steps in their healthy development toward adulthood. They develop their  first meaningful loving relationship with another person, usually the parents of the opposite sex which is natural.

…and they establish an ownership of objects and special places all their own.

This building of identity of- possessing value- is an important ingredient in the quality of self-esteem.”  When we have self esteem we are more able to diminish our fears and  live life in balance.

Fear of change:  On the face of it this does not sound like much of a fear. And yet it is A deeply ingrained fear. We all have A comfort zone, in fact many comfort zones and these are often hard to earn . We often grieve at our losses. The loss of childhood,and it’s innocence, in the darkness of winter we grieve the loss of summer, even these changes seem to rattle us. Job loss loss of a loved one leaves us stripped raw. but loss of gender, the  sex we were born to. The world sees us a female /male. how different life will need to become on so many levels before she reaches this place of change.

Change is  to become different to arrive at a fresh phase.

Changing the cells in our body

Changing the cells in our body

And yet change we must , a man or woman who will not and cannot change -is nothing -does nothing and becomes nothing.

Fear of failure;

If you find you are  wishing your life otherwise  than it is.If you spend time looking back at past problems,( failure reinforcement) and imagining similar performances in the future (failure forecasting) e.g. I can’t imagine myself successful, it is because you are controlled by rejection and accepting standards set by others. And so we set ourself up for failure by setting our goals unrealistically high, not believing that our dreams can come to reality, and not preparing enough for our achievements.

Dennis Waitley tells us  “Then, the gift of value is the absence of fear. People who live with fear  grow up standing at the end of every line. People who live with praise learn to stand alone and lead their parade, even if it’s raining. People who are given challenges and responsibilities grow up with values and goals…… People who live with optimism will grow up thinking they were born to fly!”

To my past student and others who walk the path of changing gender. I wish you the gift of patience as you walk this new path. Remember your courage will be a torch for others.

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What to do if you get hot chilli pepper in your eye.

As the mist came in I decided a warming meal of lentils and vegetables nestled on a bed of rice would be perfect for the evening meal. So I asked  the Fella to finely cut the chilly and ginger. All went well until the phone rang and he went to answer it. Chatted  for a while hung up…..then I heard from the bathroom “Quick I have rubbed my eyes and they are on fire.”


Running to the bathroom with a glass in my hand, I found him  leaning over the basin with his eyes clamped shut, obviously in pain.Filling my glass with cold tap water, Tilting his head to the side I stood at the outer eye corner, so the water could flow into the eye,. “Oh that is so much better.”Round to the other eye.Back and forth until the intense stinging had stopped. The redness was now only confined to his face.  The container of plain Yoghurt in the fridge brought instant relief to the stinging skin and redness quickly subsided .

Only then did I think to look on the internet for “Chilli in your eye” and the solution.Yes water the eye for 15 minutes or

Milk to dissolve  the capsaicin

Milk to dissolve the capsaicin


weblog BlogHer recommends using the same thing you’d use to relieve that pain in your mouth: milk.

“Using one of our little drinking glasses, I was somehow able to get milk into my eye. (Don’t ask me to demonstrate.) I also did a fairly good job of making the milk run all the way down my face and neck, but whatever.

Instant relief. I stood there, blinking milkily in unbelief. Could I really have just gone from that much pain to practically no pain with just a few swishes of milk? Indeed I had.”

If you feel your hands burning and want to get the pepper oils off before touching your eyes, washing your hands with soap and water won’t help.” Weblog The Kitchn notes that oil-based products, however, will:

Olive oil! When the pain became unbearable, I rubbed a tablespoon of olive oil all over my hands for about a minute, then washed them with soap and water. The olive oil helped to dissolve the capsaicin in the jalapeno – which is more soluble in oil than in water – so it could be rinsed away.”

Dinner _well the lentils a little under cooked, rice a little overcooked but at least he could see to enjoy it.

To conclude.

Don’t touch your eyes..

Purchase an eye bath from the chemist if you cook with chilly

Wear gloves to cut chillies.

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Thank you to the Volunteer Fire Brigade

Well it has been the strangest day for me.
Initially I thought I had achieved nothing.
Now that the evening meal is finished and I have the time to reflect I realise the gifts the day has brought.
I cancelled the yoga class, knowing my voice and body could not last the hour and a half class. No focus or clarity you see. So we sat in the morning sunlight, the   Yoga students and I and we talked and laughed.

I put eye drops in a friends eyes. ( they were irritated by the smoke.)

I laughed with a friend and neighbour and thanked him for making me feel safe as we worked together.

I hosed off the Uniforms and hung then in the sun.

Volunteer Fire Brigade

Volunteer Fire Brigade

A neighbour walking her dog past stopped to ask after us.
She explained that something had woken her minutes after midnight, she new not what and then fell back into sleep. Not believing that she had slept through it.
( And assured me the home owners were insured.)
This evening I was given a hug by a colleague and friend who arrived full of concern about how we were, the fella and I. She had just heard the news from the post mistress.

Striding down the hill,another couple of volunteer fire fighters, “yes I’ve had a sleep and feel much better now”. Two more “Firies”and we all conferred on
last nights fire. Having related our roles, in the smoke heat and confusion, we could not always know what other brigade members were doing, we spoke on how we could improve things. This was for most of us the first  structure fire we have had to attend in our village.

Someone’s home  someones shelter, someones life changed forever as the rest of the village slept. Even though she would have been in shock  the lady home owner called to us as we arrived “Be careful, be careful there are gas bottles around the side of the house.”

Team work and courage

Team work and courage

Our village is small and we are blessed with the back up we received from other Volunteer Fire Brigades, the Ambulance and Police, Search and Rescue. How lucky we are to have them arriving quickly.

The sense of sadness lingers like the smell of smoke ,that is faintly whisping around the rooms. The people who have lost their home. We could not save it, we were able to stop it spreading to surrounding homes. I wish to thank the wind for not blowing, the moon for lighting the night,( flashing lights on stationary fire trucks can’t cover it all and the fire is often masked by billowing smoke.) And the cold air for descending, (would be a frost in the valleys by morning. Though my teeth were chattering at one stage.(cold or shock or adrenalin wearing off, I do not know.) I am thankful that the house had space around it, enough for us to drag  our fire hoses around. That they were not on tank water, mains pressure provides a good water supply.

Thank you  to the people who are the team called Volunteer Fire Brigade, who call up unknown strengths in me and have such big hearts. For the couple who have lost home and  the easy structure of their lives, I wish you courage and Hope.

look to the posative

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7 tips for establishing your meditation practice.

I find we live much of life on automatic pilot.



We know more joy when we  1. State specifically what we want.

   2.Constantly focus on it.

3. Take action to make it happen.

Tip 1  Be realistic in your expectations. Training or taming the  “mad monkey mind” is a skill to develop over a lifetime. If you are new to this take your time, enjoy the newness of the journey. Andy Puddicombe says”If expectations are too high then you may well feel disappointed and demotivated at some stage. So just take one day at a time.”

Tip 2   Meditate first thing in the morning if you can. It will ensure it gets done, and is a great way to start each day. Starting fresh each morning enables us to see the day clearly  and puts things into perspective.

Tip 3  One teacher put it this way.”If you choose to do it at another time of day, prioritize it. This means putting it in the diary and committing to it in the same way you would to any other kind of meeting or event in your week. Just sit for   10 minutes  remember nothing is more important than the health of your mind.”

Tip 4 Think “same time, same place.” That’s why so many people benefit from a weekly class. As you are driving to class the mind is already shedding the day and preparing you for meditation. For daily practice create  a corner or use the same chair or matt, only for meditation.Toby advises “Try to create a conducive environment in which you can immediately relax into and make it part of your daily routine.”

Tip 5  You may find it useful to add meditation to your  pre existing daily routine.   Think “morning walk  and then meditation,” or perhaps “shower and then meditation.” Thus we integrate the practice into a well-established routine that already exists.

Tip 6 Be flexible, no matter what. If you intend to train the mind for the rest of your life, you can be sure that there will be days when your routine is thrown out of shape. Don’t let that be an excuse to skip a day, just do it later instead. It is always better to sit for a short while than not at all, even if it is only a minute.

Tip 7  Avoid judging your meditation. It is tempting to think you are “good” or “bad” at meditation. In truth, there is no such thing. There is only distraction or non-distraction.Take the big picture approach it is for the health for your life.

Toby says”If you tell yourself you are bad at something you will lose all motivation and are unlikely to do it. If you understand the purpose, this will never be a problem.”

Always reflect on the benefits of meditation at the end of the session. Notice how you feel, physically, mentally and emotionally. The more you establish the connection between training the mind and feeling better, clearer, or calmer, the easier it becomes to sit down and practice each day.

My Yoga Teacher yoga Shanti said   “When thoughts and actions become destructive, it is your responsibility to alter or abort them and institute new habits as the foundation for a freer, happier life. Steady efforts always bring results. Exert your power, improve how you think and intetract in the world. The force is always with you.”Shantiyoga.com

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Eat,Pray, Love and more – Meditator’s diet 2

The fire had burnt out and the air was rapidly cooling , so we agreed it would be a good night to go early to bed. And if the phone rings we will not answer it the fellow announced.

Loose body awareness by gazing into the flame.

Loose body awareness by gazing into the flame.

I had just drifted to sleep when I heard him stagger from bed and after awhile “I will bring Lorraine to the phone.” I listened, bundled in a blanket, to the call no one wants to make or receive.

I wish to tell you some news as Donald( name changed)is a good friend of yours.He  has had a brain tumour removed.

I could tell by her breathing that my girlfriend was holding tight to stop the tears and be able to deliver her message about her husband.

Starry sky

Starry sky

We are walking in nature, I am crying a lot.”- Good tears release endorphins which help you to manage the extra stessors.

The next phone call

“We need to change our diet. No white flour and no white sugar.  no meat. Oh dear I remember those wonderful German pastries.” Donald is still cooking and seems not to worry about the future Chemo therapy and Radiation that he will receive daily for the next six weeks

” I am coping by seeing a psychologist and having massages. Did I believe in Energy healing?” The questions tumble out each time we Skype.

The energetics of our body. painting by Lorraine Willcock

The energetics of our body. painting by Lorraine Willcock

Donald is now added to my healing meditation I send daily to the world

Remember that International best seller Eat , Pray , Love well I’ve added a few.

Pray, keep faith and smile!
Prayer is the best form of reassurance and support to keep you anxiety-free. over backward  it is guaranteed to bring you peace.

Developing habits of daily prayer, chanting or singing bhajans (devotional songs)

Just sing It improves breathing and you feel so much better. fills you with positive energy and also helps still the mind. They also instill a sense of deep faith that all happens for the best and that there is a higher divine power that takes care of all life forms. Moreover, make a conscious effort to smile more and more. It will instill confidence, calmness and positivity instantaneously. Try it out right now!

Think about what you can do for others.
When we constantly remain stuck in ‘me and mine’, it makes room for stress and anxiety. Our world shrinks and we become possessive. Rather, shift your attention to how you can be of some use to others around you. This way of thinking will energise you and bring you much joy.

And yes Know the impermanence of the world.
When this realisation acknowledges that everything around us is temporary and will change, we become relaxed and settled from within. A feeling of ‘this too shall pass arises in us and frees us from anxiety.” Meditation will help you settle into this feeling.The art of living.com

and as you mentioned food

Here are 10 foods you could add into your diet that can help improve your mind/ body health.By Hayley Hobson • Originally published on Mind Body Green.

published on thefoodrevolutionnetwork.com Ocean Robbins

1. Leafy greens. Some ideas: kale, spinach, collard and mustard greens. These foods are high in folate and B9, which improve cognition and reduce depression.

2. Cruciferous vegetables. Broccoli, cauliflower, bok choy, brussels sprouts and kale contain folate and have cartenoids that lower homo-cysteine (an amino acid linked with cognitive impairment).

3. Beans and legumes. These foods contain more folate, iron, magensium and potassium that can help with general body function and neuron firing. They also contain choline, a B vitamin that boosts acetylcholine (a neuro transmitter critical for brain function).

4. Whole grains. Good bets include quinoa, kammut and gluten-free oats (not bread and cereal)

5. Berries and cherries. These fruits contain anthocyanin that protects the brain from further damage caused by free radicals. They also have anti-inflammatory properties and contain antioxidants and lots of vitamin C and E.

6. Pumpkin, squash, asparagus, tomatoes, carrots and beets. These vegetables, if not overcooked, contain vitamin A, folate and iron that help with cognition.

7. Omega 3s. People whose diets contain daily omega 3s have been shown to have 26% less risk of having brain lesions that cause dementia compared with those who do not. These fatty acids help the brain to stay in top shape. You can get your omega fatty acids from fish, flax seeds, olive oil (not safflower) or by taking a good quality omega 3 supplement.

8. Almonds, cashews, walnuts, hazelnuts, peanuts and pecans. All of these nuts contain omega-3s and omega-6s, vitamin E, folate, vitamin B6 and magnesium.

9. Sunflower seeds and pumpkin seeds. These seeds contain zinc, choline and vitamin E.

10. Cinnamon, sage, tumeric and cumin. Theses spices can all help to break up brain plaque and reduce inflammation of the brain which can cause memory issues. In addition to eating the foods listed above, you’ll want to decrease the risk of illnesses that can make your brain age such as obesity, heart disease, diabetes and hypertension.

Other things to avoid are the toxins in your food, water, soil and environment, unnecessary stress, caffeine, sugar, drugs, alcohol and sugar.

Encourage healthy decisions, conscientiousness, positive peer groups, a clean environment, exercise, maintaining a healthy weight, 8 hours of sleep, stress management and gratitude. Saying thank you everyday for the things you have. Friends , family an excellent medical facility. sun on your shoulders, starlight.

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