We fail , it starts as a child learning to walk. We fall tip, slip and yet we constantly pick ourselves up and try again. Often encouraged by our loved ones to stand, arms reach out to encourage us to try again, we are applauded. But somewhere along the line we became disenchanted by the so-called failures.Some where we learned we must be a perfectionist in all we do , we are afraid of criticism as it is often negative,as we lose self-esteem we fear making a fool of ourselves and choose not to speak out for ourselves especially when we seem to be against common opinion.
I am reminded of the quote by Winston Churchill ”Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it the courage to continue that counts.” The practice of meditation is to give us the space to find perspective again.Often this is lost in our daily interactions with others and ourselves. Spaces of stillness are immensely healing. Leave the office for a walk in the park, leave your living room for some moments to gaze into a night-time sky, walk around the room and deepen your breath for the falling child had moments of laughter and love before falling flat on their face again.
I very much like the affirmation by Yee Shun-Jian
“Today I am willing to fail in order to succeed.”
Like the toddler learning to walk we need to be reminded that it’s fine to fall as long as we pick ourselves up as the song says dust yourself off and start all over again. Henry Ford said “Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again this time more intelligently”
I read with interest in the Weekend Australian Magazine Nikki Gemmell’s comments how Brisbane Girls Grammar School has introduced a course for first – year high school students teaching them the importance of risk taking. Educators know we can be frozen by the fear of failure, more so among girls. Nikki’s article tells us England’s Wimbledon High School recently held a “Failure Week” for its female students.The empahisis was on the value of having a go as opposed to playing it safe and possibly achieving less. Headmistress Heather Hanbury wanted to show “it is completely acceptable and normal not to succeed at times in life…the girls need to learn how to fail well and how to get over it…fear of failing can be really crippling and stop the girls doing things they really want to do.”
Watching the inspiring story of two young men competing for gold in the Paralympics in London.The first one injured when he was thrown from the utility on his parents farm, his spine broken at age 12.
The story of his house mate, friend and fellow competitor on the basketball team is also one of dusting your self off and getting on with life. This young man was diagnosed with a tumor on his spine at a very young age. These incredible men believe in rising above these great hindrances showing us true courage.It is in the overcoming of failure that we make room for victory.
Failure and our fear of this destroys our internal energy reserves. understand it is just another gift in hiding waiting for us to unveil it.
When the mind is busy/noisy there is no room to rise to life’s challenges. The constant mind chatter holds us frozen keeping us from being our greater selves.
As we learn to stay in a quiet receptive state without worry we understand that we cannot be held back by failure as it is only a feeling.